What Is Love?
An accidental, passionate and otherwise inexplicable attraction for each other? Continuous good deeds benefitting the wellfare of one another? The phenomenal experience of an exclusive relationship?
All of it? Something else all together? Why does it all have to be so, uh, perplexing?
Does love make the world go ’round? Yes, as such love is a rather complicated matter involving tender feelings and at times even hard choices. Love can be full of drama and polemics.
And does love last? Nope, unfortunately, not by itself. But there are things one can do. Start by believing that true love is within reach…
Hi, Tom Froehlich here. I am a graduate of the Unification Theological Seminary (Class of ’83) and am infatuated with musing about the phenomenon of lasting erotic love in human affairs.
It isn’t love’s fault when interpersonal relationships break down, though. It’s just that humans – us, you and me – all of us are a bit flawed. Who and what are we? Do humans have what it takes to make real love last?
Many folks find hope in believing that love better originates and emanates from God. I am not convinced. Is there not more to it? Having examined I, me, and myself as well as my beliefs of youth now for decades, I still ponder. Flawed or not, I think that humans are capable of nobility, that is, of true love in their own right.
So, that is what I must be musing about, in a polemical mood: what is desire, what is caring love, what is erotic love, what is godly love, and who and what are we humans in this regard. What to keep, and what to let go in terms of clichés.
Why do I require a sign-up for folks to read some of these musings? Isn’t that a bit of grandstanding? Perhaps, but when one talks about love, one also must talk about the erotic and sex. It can sooner than later get personal and intimate, etc. I do not wish to embarrass myself in front of just anyone.
Not sure? Skip the chaff and just read the following…
What were you told by mom or dad about amorous love?
What will you tell your child about amorous love?
How do you know it’s love and not just courtesy, liking, or lusting?
To be in love with God is the greatest achievement for any human.
Are love, eros, and sex not the same?
Hey, I wrote once that love is an art form that needs to and can be learned.
Yeah, and long before that, I said that we cannot tell ourselves whom to fall in love with.
As an accident, falling in love seems to be a rather involuntary event, but cultivating that love to last and end up to be true love one day is then perhaps a choice. Accident and choice – what a fateful combination.
That’s our experience. Did we get lucky?
Should a man and a woman not get married out of courtesy, hoping that love would show up one day?
Or get married much less out of amorous love, but with a higher purpose in mind – like that of living for the sake of others?
Oh, did we ever consider any or all of that?
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